𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗜 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗼𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗜 𝗚𝗼?
“My daughter is always changing hobbies. Should I force her to stick to piano?”
“Kean, if your business is doing badly, how do you know if you should persevere, or whether it’s time to QUIT?”
𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗜𝗺𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗞𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗗𝗢𝗡’𝗧 𝗟𝗶𝗸𝗲
Many people equate “quitting” with “losing”. To me, that’s rarely the case.
Why? Because when a hobby/relationship/job ends, we learn so much about what we DON’T like.
“Yes, I had fun skating, but now I’m 100% sure professional skating isn’t for me.”
“Yes, I enjoyed dating her, but now I’m 100% sure I want someone more mature in my next relationship.”
𝗤𝘂𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗜𝗚𝗛𝗧 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀
So, when do we know to quit? To me, nothing matters more than how we FEEL.
😖 Do I DREAD going to work?
😖 Do I DESPISE going to Tae-kwon-do?
How can we possibly serve our customers / ourselves well if we resent it so much? A break is warranted.
The problem is, we often quit for the wrong reasons:
❌ Impulsively quitting is often incorrect
❌ Is it the hobby / job or something else? (e.g. being bullied at the playground or at work)
❌ Am I running away when the negativity actually comes from within?
𝗧𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗛𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀
So, should we force our Children to stick to hobbies? Well, I think we shouldn’t project our own assumptions/needs on them.
Just because she expressed an interest in music, doesn’t mean she likes the piano.
It’s perfectly natural for Children’s interests to shift over time. As long as they understand the role of commitment in their lives, it’s healthy for them to continue exploring, and understanding themselves!
