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๐ช๐ต๐ ๐๐ผ๐ฒ๐ ๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ป๐ถ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐ ๐ฎ๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ ๐ถ๐๐๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ๐?? ๐ช๐ต๐ ๐ช๐ผ๐ปโ๐ ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ?!
This post is for leaders, HR professionals, parents, teachers, anyone who feels ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐๐ฏ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ถ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฑ from trying to correct repeated unhelpful behavior.
Behavioral researchers have boiled it down to 3 root causes, which I teach using my leadership framework, ๐๐๐ง.
๐น ๐ โ ๐๐ฏ๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐๐
This is the HOW.
Most people know their behavior is unhelpful.
They just ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ปโ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ผ๐น๐ to get out of it.
๐น ๐ โ ๐๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ถ๐๐
This is mental, emotional, or physical capacity.
If someone is ๐ฏ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐น๐ ๐๐๐ฟ๐๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด, they won’t prioritize improvement.
๐น ๐ง โ ๐ง๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป
This is the ๐น๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ฏ๐น๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐พ๐๐ฒ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ๐.
Sometimes, we shield or rescue them out of love
So, they don’t learn because thereโs no tension to prioritize change.
As loving people, we rush to โfixโ. Perhaps we should also pause and ๐น๐ถ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป. Most unhelpful behavior is a ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฏ๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป of these three root causes.
When I train leaders to use ACT, they realize:
โ We shouldn’t reward bad behavior
โ
But we also ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ปโ๐ ๐ฝ๐๐ป๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ปโ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ฎ๐๐ด๐ต๐
Instead, we:
๐ฉบ Diagnose with empathy
๐ฏ Correct with purpose
๐ฑ Praise with clarity
Because unhelpful behavior is often a message. A ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ต๐ฒ๐น๐ฝ.
And the best leaders learn to read it.
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